“I need you to be the person you were supposed to be for me”

Experiencing disappointment when someone fails to live up to our expectations can be deeply disheartening and challenging to reconcile. Whether it's a friend, family member, or romantic partner, we often construct internal narratives of who they are and how they should behave based on our perceptions, experiences, and hopes. When these expectations are not met, it can feel like a betrayal or a profound loss of trust.

The disappointment may stem from a discrepancy between the reality of the person's actions and the idealized image we had constructed in our minds. We may have projected our own values, desires, and aspirations onto them, only to realize that they do not align with the person's true nature or capabilities. This realization can shatter our sense of security and leave us questioning our own judgment.

Moreover, disappointment can also be accompanied by feelings of hurt, frustration, and resentment. We may feel let down by the person's perceived lack of effort or sincerity, leading to a breakdown in communication and trust. It can be challenging to navigate these emotions, especially when we had invested time, energy, and emotional resources into the relationship. However, acknowledging and processing these feelings is essential for healing and moving forward, whether it involves setting new boundaries, reevaluating our expectations, or reassessing the dynamics of the relationship. Ultimately, while disappointment is an inevitable part of human relationships, it also presents an opportunity for growth, self-reflection, and learning to accept others for who they truly are, flaws and all.